পরের খাইয়া পরের গুন গাইতে হয়
porer khaiya porer gun gaite hoy
Provenance: Reviewed field-research record
Word class
proverb-like relational expression
Lexical status
গুণ গাওয়া component idiom verified; complete dependency saying not independently verified.
Recorded forms
পরের খাইয়া পরের গুন গাইতে হয়
Research meaning — English
1. A saying about speaking well of the person on whom one depends for livelihood; here it introduces an employer’s help with tension.
Research meaning — Bengali
1. অন্যের ওপর জীবিকার নির্ভরতার মধ্যে তার ভালো দিক বলার কথা; এখানে নিয়োগকর্তার টেনশন কমাতে সাহায্যের বর্ণনার ভূমিকা।
What this research adds
Relates care and distress management to a livelihood relationship; a contextual relational-suffering/care subentry, not a mental illness label.
Relación con la salud mental
Interpret as relational and material context of support, not a symptom.
Safe messaging for media
- Use the expression in its stated context; do not present it as a diagnosis or universal translation.
- Avoid describing a person by a stigmatizing term unless the person self-identifies that way and the wording is necessary.
- For suicide-related coverage, avoid method detail, sensational headlines, and single-cause explanations; include help-seeking information.
- Link to this entry’s evidence limits and distinguish contributor wording from analyst interpretation.
Established meaning — English
1. The component idiom means speaking in praise of someone. [LALEX21] Definition/comparison applies to পরের খাইয়া পরের গুন গাইতে হয়.
Established meaning — Bengali
1. গুণ গাওয়া মানে কারও প্রশংসা করা। [LALEX21]
Contexto de uso
The participant explicitly notes the employer is not present, then recounts support and rest.
Learning from the accounts
Variation and visualization
Do not infer that the gratitude is insincere or that all domestic work protects mental health.
Qué es incierto
Livelihood dependence and the employer’s help with tension come from the local context, not the dictionary component. Recorded গুন remains unchanged; no general allegation of insincerity or culturally universal patronage logic.
Commonness and evidence limits
These are selected qualitative occurrences in supplied source files and versions. Repeated files or passages do not add independent testimony. Neither frequency in the population nor identical understanding or private imagery is established by these selections.
Relationships and comparison
These are scoped relationships from the research record, not claims of universal equivalence.
Synonyms and near-synonyms
No exact synonym established for the locally recorded expression. Related words and clinical comparisons are listed separately.
Antonyms and contrasts
No antonym established for this local use. Absence of illness, normality, obedience and recovery are not supplied as invented opposites.
Related terms
F11; F31; R03 — linked concepts; not synonym claims.
Across languages
English: sing someone’s praises — Praise someone enthusiastically. component-level idiomatic comparison. The praise imagery is comparable. It does not reproduce the full obligation/dependence meaning of the Bangla saying. [LALEX22]
অংশগ্রহণকারীঃ পরের খাইয়া পরের গুন গাইতে হয়। এখন ম্যাডাম তো আমার সামনে নাই। আমি যদি বলি খালাম্মা আমি বাসায় যাই। বলে তুমি বাসায় যাবে না, বাসায় গেলে আপনি টেনশন করবেন। তুমি এদিকে থাকো। খালা তুমি টাইম হলে বাসায় যাইও । এখন বইসা থাকো,কাজ নাই ঘুমাও। ম্যাডাম আমায় টেনশন করতে দিতো না।
All evidence IDs: E1161
Perspectivas de distintos contextos
Las perspectivas se muestran una junto a otra. Parecerse no significa ser equivalente. Ninguna perspectiva habla en nombre de toda una cultura.